5 Reasons Why Many Christian Lady Remain Single

1 Consider Why The Delay Finding A Partner In Marriage And Check Your Mindset And Lifestyle

An Evangelist Speech: I was speaking with a lady many years ago and she was so emotional about her getting married so fast because she’s fed up with everything going on at home. She’s fed up of her family and how everything was going, though I tried to calm her down but the calming wasn’t enough. Though After some period of time, she latter got married.

I kept on wondering how many ladies would be in her shoes just to leave the home of their parents to get married. One of the days I was chatting with a brother who was telling me that he wanted to get married fast because he wants to know how sex looks like. He wants to enjoy it like seriously. He latter got married and now with kids.

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I was talking with a lady many years ago and she just wanted to get married so she could be respected and also be called MRS. She’s married now with kids. A time ago, the evangelist closed from his office late and he was going home with a lovely brother who was just complaining of how he would get home and start cooking.

The Evangelist Speech Continued: He told me something shocking that ladies are just there to cook and make the man happy (though I tried to make him see that it’s beyond that) he said that he wish he’s just married so that when he gets home he would just get food to eat and relax his mind. I have so many things to say but will like to shift to the topic of our discussion.

5 Reasons Why Many Christian Remain Single

In 2012, A minister of God was invited to be a member of a panel at a Christian singles conference. After speaking about living a purposeful life, and remaining pure in singleness, the topic of marriage invariably came up.

A lady stood up and started pouring out her heart about how she desired a husband. How she was in her late thirties and did not want to be alone anymore. She said that she was on the verge of ‘settling’!

In an attempt to comfort her, an older lady/woman, whom we will call Sarah stood up and proclaimed that she was single at 60 and had never married. Sarah started to encourage the younger lady. She said, look at me, I am 60 and not married but I will not settle.

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I want what God wants for me and will not settle for less. I have had many counterfeit men come into my life. Sarah then went ahead and started to rattle off about the men that had been potential suitors and what was wrong with them.

As she spoke, somethings that seemingly escaped her started to become clear to those of us on the panel. She was to blame for being single at 60. Here are some of the things we realized about Sarah that kept her single

1. Sarah Wanted Jesus…Not A Disciple Of Jesus…But Jesus Himself:

Many women, like Sarah are looking for the perfect mate. They want someone who is going to complete them and be their everything! If this is you, then my question to you is this: If a man completes you and becomes your everything, then what position is Jesus taking in your life?

Jesus is the one that completes you and is meant to be your everything. So, to look for completeness in a man is to make that man an idol in your life, it is to have put man above God! This will only lead to ruin because no man is perfect! Try as he might, he will disappoint you!

So stop looking for someone who will not disappoint you over the lifetime you wish to be married…you will not find it. Even you, yes you…have and still disappoint many people…whether you realize it or not…whether you meant it or not. Instead of looking for perfection, look for someone who is striving towards perfection.

This is a person that loves God and does not want to be conformed to the world but whose life’s purpose is to be transformed into the image of Jesus.

Someone mom says, if you meet a person who is perfect, run away, for you will end up becoming imperfect, through whatever is making that person seem perfect.

2. Sarah Saw Herself As A Princess, But She Did Not Care To Prince Her Man:

There are many women who see themselves as awesome and incredible royalty. Many women say, I want to be treated like a princess! The issue is that they do not want their man to be a prince. They do not want to share any power or give up any control.

Instead, they want their partners to take the position of a slave while treating them like a princess. The reason many women cannot let go of control is because of fear – perhaps due to not dealing with the hurts of past relationships.

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The moment the man does not give her the power she craves, she takes it as he not treating her like a princess and so searches for greener pastures. Conversely, many men see that while they are giving all they have, the woman is not following suit! Many women think that this is part of being pursued; many men simply see it as being disrespectful.

As a princess, you have to make sure you prince your man. Compliment him and let him know that you appreciate that he is being led by the King. Let go of the control. Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. This is because only the heart can feel love, not your head.

3. Sarah Liked Being Pursued But Did Not Want To Be Caught:

In the bible, the servant of Abraham went to a land far away in pursuit of a wife for Isaac. When he got there, it was Rebekah that came to the well. When he approached, she did not play games and dilly-dally. No, she said that she would not wait as her family had requested but would follow Eliezer immediately back to Isaac.

When Boaz pursued Ruth, Ruth decided to show her interest by laying at his feet. See, both Rebekah and Ruth showed interest. They did not play games or play hard to get.

Ladies, if a prince has found you, then admit it and go forward as long as you have God’s blessing. I am not saying be easy, but at the same time, do not be hard to get. Just as you are a gift to him, he is also a gift to you! If a man is pursing you, do not run him away with games.

4. Sarah Was Way Too Picky:

Sarah did not want God to decide whom she should marry but decided on who she wanted to marry. In essence, she said: God, forget about who you desire for me, this is the person I want to marry…now make it happen! It was no longer God’s will for her life but her will for her life!

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But does God not want to give us the desires of our heart? Yes…as long as it glorifies God. In fact, the scripture says: delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. As you delight yourself in the Lord, you will find that His desires become your desire…thus your desire will glorify God!

You must believe right now that what God wants for you is better than what you could ever want for yourself in the long run. If he is not giving you your hearts desires, it may be because you are not ready to handle your heart’s desire. It may be because what you desire is not desirable!

5. Sarah Wanted Boaz But Wanted To Remain A Delilah:

Do not be like Sarah! Every potential suitor she met had some flaw that was fatal. One could not provide. Another could provide but was not attractive enough. A third was attractive and could provide but did not pay her enough attention.

Yet, another paid her too much attention. She forgot that she was filled with flaws herself! She was so busy finding fault with everyone that she had no time to look at herself. She was so busy trying to find the speck in someone else’ life that she forgot that the log in her eyes was blinding her vision of the truth about herself. The truth that just like everyone else, she is imperfect and needs a savior as well!

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Sarah could not understand why the one’s she thought were ‘perfect’ for her were not interested. Sarah, perhaps it is because they are not willing to ‘settle’ either. I thank God that he did not wait for us to be perfect but settled for us. He wants us to settle for nothing less than Himself.

This means that we have to take the reins off our own lives and surrender completely to His will. It seemed that Joseph settled for Mary when He married a pregnant girl…but He became immortalized in history because of it. Are you willing to settle for God’s best for you?