There is a fine line between godly sexual relationship (between spouses) and perverted sexual activity. The first one is out of love; the last one is out of lust. Love is of God, lust is of the carnal mind and of Satan.
God is the one who made sex and designed it to be enjoyed in the manner it was intended. Any different way is sexual perversion. Like anything whose proper function is abused will cause problems. Oral sex is not sexual intercourse in the sense of the word, but a sexual act, and it would fall under the Bible’s prohibition of “porneia”; sexual impurity.
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If oral sex is replacing genital sex it will be even more of an abomination unto the Lord. God has clearly designed male and female bodies for genital sexual relations with each other, not for oral and anal sex. Married couples should beware of substituting something else for that which God had designed at Creation.
We must consider God’s creativity as our guide and principle that the male genital is designed for the female genital, just as food is for the stomach (1 Corinthian 6:13). In this light the practice of oral and anal sex cannot be said to conform with God’s design and should be regarded as deviations from His plan, which are sinful.
Oral sex is unholy and sin of lust, and Satan will be right there to reinforce this sinful behavior. Therefore practicing oral sex may eventually lead to further exploring of sexual release through other ways of perverted sex, i.e. sex toys, vibrators, internet sex, fantasy, sex videos, masturbation, pornography etc.
This in turn will bring the person into sexual bondage through which sex becomes an addictive drive, and may reach compulsive behavioral levels. The craving for perverted sex will never be satisfied. Once arrived at the point for the need to satisfy the lust of their sexual drive one is trapped and will experience a vicious circle of an unsatisfied sexual relationship with their spouse; mutual love is gone and fleshly sex has taken over.
2 Corinthians 6:17… Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you. Leviticus 10:10.. And that ye may put difference between holy and unholy, and between unclean and clean;
Agreement between spouses to participate in oral sex does not make it right and must be avoided. It only shows that both do agree to give in to the lust of the flesh and to unclean sexual activity.
There are unclean spirits associated with this act. Some of you may rather call this frigidity, but let me tell you friend, learn first what holiness is, and then we’ll talk further. If Satan cannot destroy Christian marriages through divorce or adultery, he’ll try to get through the backdoor of the Christian marriage, which is through the bedroom door.
Satan’s intent is to destroy which is not so visible for the eye, but which is spiritual and involves man’s soul. He comes with a host of unclean spirits and tries to attack in the core. Many Christian couples do not or will not recognize this, or they will not depart from their fleshly lusts.
As you can see, one has to make a choice whom to serve. Satan says: “Now, don’t you talk about your sex life to anybody, it’s none of their business.” Why do you think he is saying this? So he will not be revealed… so he can stay and keep his domain. That is why oral sex is quiet in the Christian community.
Satan does not want to leave his territory. When oral sex in a Christian marriage is condoned the door is left wide open for other bizarre and unclean sexual activity, such as anal sex etc.
Ephesians 5:3-6… But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.
There is also another issue: Although God meant for people to enjoy the sexual act, He also had the purpose of “being fruitful and multiplying” in mind. Oral sex does not meet these criteria. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18…Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
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You should be able to praise God in all situations and circumstances and I am convinced that this is impossible while practicing oral sex. This should tell us enough. The Lord says: Be Holy for I am Holy. Galatians 5:24… And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Strive to please the Lord, even in your sexual relationship with your spouse. Sacrifice your old self and its lusts.