The Warning Bell In Marriage Relationship

1 If You Rush Into Marriage, You Can't Rush out. So Pray Well !!

Marriage is divinely uphold by God and built upon Christ the Solid rock. Marriage is all about companionship: an act of meeting needs of one another. Marriage is enjoyable, sweet and lovely only when you acquired the necessary knowledge, wisdom and consistently calling upon Christ the Solid Rock of defense to defend it. If you marry a wrong person everything about you will be totally wrong. If you marry because of money, you will never experience peace or joy in latter day. If you marry in order to overcome masturbation or fornication you will certainly continue in your sexual immoral enterprise after few months.

Marriage isn’t an escape route of escaping from certain addicted hurdles or turmoil’s of life because the very troubles you are running or shying away and refused to defeat will surely consumed you in your marital life. Problems are meant to overcome and not to run-away from because experience is great lesson. Marriage is unique and ordained by heavens. Marriage is never divorced; it’s for better and for worse.

The Unfortunate Scenario About Marriage

There is a clamor call and rush for marriage especially among the female folks; perhaps due to over-age, peer pressure or family troubles. However, they are striving how to get-out from their family persistence pressure about marriage. It doesn’t matter who comes on their ways, rich, poor, unbeliever, spiritual minded, wizard, arm-robber, assassin or occultist; they don’t care.

Months ago while a minister was counseling a sister on marital issue. Moreover, she is financially buoyant but not maritally balanced. She said; i don’t care who comes on my way now. I don’t give a derm about his tribe inasmuch he is human being. In fact, am ready to support him financially for any marital expenses. Honestly, as a minister he, felt for the beloved sister because age wasn’t on her side. Now due to over-age she wants to soul-ties herself with any man, either unbelievers or wizard—that is wrong..!

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I absolutely believe in heavenly report and not what people are gossiping about you. Marriage is not what you just rush-in without awaiting heavenly report irrespective of over-age. I still believe that God isn’t yet through with his programs in your life. Here is my candy advice to every beloved sister who is seriously waiting upon God for marital breakthrough. Please don’t be intimidated or felt as if you are over-age.

Moreover, in such perception, the Holy Ghost will prove to you that you certainly deserved the best inasmuch you are spiritually living right before the Lord. And for as many craving into marital business, perhaps have already behold their life partner, gotten engage or still revolving around courtship or still in field of ultimate search. There is what i will call MARRIAGE BELL; which comprises.

The Marriage Warning Bell.
The Marriage Wedding Bell.

The Marriage Warning Bell

The marriage warning bell is always behold during courtship or while trying to get engaged with your life partner. God will definitely cause the proposed fiance/fiancee that you have engaged to begin to unveil his/her hidden irritating character or attitudes. God will show you several signs of the man/woman character for you to decide and make your decision; whether to proceed ahead with the marriage or dissolved it.

After the fall of Adam in Garden of Eden; where he frankly blamed God for giving him wife; God has deliberately decided to withdraw his hand from giving any man/woman wife or husband. As it was written; Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord, Proverb 18;22. God has already prepared many godly women as a wife for every man. The appropriate step is to pray, search for, discover and afterward a confirmation from God.

There is God perfect will in marriage but it’s unfortunate that many Christians and even single pastors don’t love to embraced God perfect will for them in marriage; probably, the young lady might be an illiterates, blind, lame, dwarf or comes from a very poor family or wicked background. They will rather go after permissive will; this nonchalant attitude always frown God.

He demands them to rather go and seek for themselves and after they found; they should called upon him for confirmation. Therefore, you have to seek and find your own wife while the grace of God abideth with you. Those unveiled irritating character of your fiance or fiancee are ignited for you in order to behold the pathetic nature of your betroth wife/husband in order not to later cry and start blaming God tomorrow or after the sound of wedding bell.

The marriage warning bell is always experienced by anyone who has beheld his/her life partner. It always rang continuously in the ear of those who are already engages or about to takes their marriage vows or still searching for life partner. Marriage warning bell is a divine program from the Lord in order to compel both partners for an urgent manifestation of their ugly sides.

Moreover, in most case they will tend to suppressed or concealed those ugly attitude from their partner. They will rather prefer to live in pretends and camouflage lifestyles. Nevertheless; such ugly character will definitely continue to show-fort. Sometimes the opposite partner might be blinded to acknowledge it or takes it unserious due to lust or love or whatever he/she might call it.

They will rather conclude;

Ooh don’t worry mum; he/she will certainly change when he/she heard the preaching of my pastor.
Please Dad, let me go into fasting and praying and also preach to him/her, i believe he/she will change.
Please don’t worry yourself my friend, when we got marry God will take over and things will get better — DEAR ACTOR, DON’T BE SURPRISE TO LATER DISCOVER THAT YOU HAVE PLAYED THE ROLE OF A BIG FOOL.

For your information, if you marry someone because of pity or blinded by love, lust and refuse to meditate and takes heed to those warning bell or signal whom your parents or friends observed in your espouse, without learning how to endure and tolerate those irritating characters; but rather decide to indulges into Marathon of praying and fasting and hoping for him/her to change— JUST PRAY THAT YOU WILL NOT BLAME YOURSELF.

Honestly, hope you will not be the most idiotic, foolish, unfortunate, frustrated, helpless, and hopeless and ignoramus Christian on earth. How do you think you going convert or change someone ugly sides? When have you become a Holy Ghost? Those erroneous signal attitudes are propelling from God in order to preview what your partner is made of. And also to get you equipped and ready to endure and tolerate whatsoever you might behold in your marital journey; so you wouldn’t blame God or charge him foolishly after the final wedding bell, as Adam.

The Marriage Wedding Bell

The marriage wedding bell is the last ringing bell in every intended marriage relationship and after this bell no more turning back. It is a vowing bell of acceptance of each other before the presence of high priest of Jehovah in his Holy sanctuary. Howbeit; after taking such vows and exchanges of bible—-because wedding ring is a jewelry and abominable in the sight of God and not acceptable and should be avoided in every marriage vow or covenant.

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After taken an oath, to cherish and love each other until death does apart, there is no turning back or divorcement because God hates separation—-divorce is from the pit of hell. That is reason why; i regards marriage as LUCK. After wedding the real business commences because wedding is just a ritual or ceremony that need to be enacted. Marital journey began a day after wedding and whatsoever character you behold in your spouse please kindly endure and overlook.

The Story Of Newly Married Couple

A new married couple makes a decision after their honey moon. They don’t want to offend each other; so they both agree to always write out every irritating attitude of each other for a month. At the end of the month, they both sat round the table to present each other ugly report—what he/she behold and dislike or dispersed of other.

However, the husband asked the wife to present her report. She angrily presented the ugly sides she found in her husband. She enlisted about 20 hated and erroneous attitudes of her husband; starting from anger, snoring, too judgmental, football addict, movie and music fans and many others. Afterward, she asked her husband to present his own report concerning her ugly or irritating attitude.

The young man tearfully looks at his wife and said; my dear, i didn’t write any evil report against you. You are a perfect woman and lovely wife whom i have decided to share the rest of my life. Whatever ugly sides or irritating attitude i behold in you, it will makes me to seek for another woman outside who doesn’t possess such horrible character. My dear, though am not a perfect husband but you are a perfect wife to me. Everything i behold in you is completely perfect and you are irreplaceable.

I vowed to love you in both ugliness and goodness. I sincerely love both your ugly side and glorious side of life. My dear i will continue to care and love you even if my entire family dispersed you. I will continue to cherish everything about you even if the whole world hated you. MY DEAR, I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE PRICELESS. After this compassionate confession; the wife burst into tears; weeping and kissing her dear beloved husband.

Advice To Sisters Seeking For Marital Breakthrough

Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. It’s a sign of disrespect. Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you because you are each other’s keeper. Ephesians 5:12 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them–Defensive women don’t have a happy home. Proverbs 15:13 A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
Never compare your husband to other men, you have no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish. Matthew 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them. The person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband. Proverbs 11:22 As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.
Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties and if you don’t know how to prepare different delicacies or perfect in laundry. You better begin your learning NOW. Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Never bidden anyone to give attention to your husband or perhaps due to church activities; such person may be perfect in everything but your husband is your own responsibility. Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed; rather encourage him. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing”
Never be a wasteful wife, your husband is sweat and too precious to be wasted. Proverbs 12:4 NLT “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones”
Never pretend to be sick or fasting for the purpose of denying your husband sex. If you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. 1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Conclusion

Marriage warning bell can ring for years while associating in courtship or trying to understand or know more about the attracted partner, for personal decision. While wedding bell only rang once and afterward the rest is history, for better and for worse until death do you apart. Therefore, don’t behold marriage as an escape route of your troubles or felt intimidated and emotional thwarted just because Miss Juliet, your bosom friend is married.

Perhaps, just because your closed pal, Mr. Romeo is married, probably, that is reason why you want to soul-ties yourself into life imprisonment of marriage without mindful of its consequence. Anyway, have this in mind, NO MARRIAGE IS HEAVENLY SENT. YOU ARE THE MARRIAGE ITSELF.